When I try to put myself in other people’s shoes, I find that I start to feel overwhelmed. Some people just have so many demands on their time. This is especially true with large families with lots of kids doing sports, school, socializing, recreation, etc. This begs the question, “Is becoming self-reliant too hard to do?”
I imagine that someone in this situation would feel forced to put the idea of becoming more self-reliant toward the bottom of their list of priorities. Is that really wise? I mean, it is definitely understandable. I grew up in a large family. I understand the demands on time and attention. I also understand that many families wouldn’t have it any other way. Large families are awesome to have, and they are awesome to be a part of. But, large families (and families of all sizes) also have potential that often goes unexplored and undeveloped.
I like to think of a family as a team. Strong families can produce a synergy unlike any you would find in even the most successful business teams. Synergy is basically combined effort that produces a result that is greater than the sum of the separate entities.
Synergy is why one person might have limited success, but adding 2-3 complementary individuals can cause that success to increase exponentially. That potential is built-in to every family that makes a sincere and consistent effort to have strong and meaningful relationships.
I imagine families applying that potential synergy towards the goal of becoming self-reliant. The family that successfully does this will not only bring enormous benefits to the current family members, but will also lay a foundation of amazing blessings for future family members that will come from marriage and child-rearing as the children grow up and start families of their own.
Striving to become self-reliant is an investment that takes a great deal of commitment and effort, but which also produces rewards that are very, very desirable. In other words, it is hard, but worth the effort. And a united family effort makes it much easier, and much more rewarding.
I encourage you to gather your family about you and find a way to unite toward the common goal and shared interest of becoming self-reliant. Together, you can create a shared vision of freedom from debt and scarcity, strength of body/mind/spirit, and build up self-reliant individuals who can take this vision to families of their very own.